Child custody matters are often portrayed as contentious in movies and television shows. This doesn't have to be the case. It is possible for parents to work together to get child custody decisions made amicably.
There are several things you should know if you are planning on working out the child custody arrangements with your ex.
The benefits of you and your ex working together to figure out child custody matters can help get your new parenting relationship off on the right foot. You are also showing your children that treating people cordially is the right thing to do, even when you don't agree with them.
Your child can benefit in these situations because you can work out agreements based on what they need. You and your ex know the ins and outs of your children so you can take this into consideration as you are making decisions. Additionally, your children will likely be able to get started with the new way of life sooner since mediation is often faster than going through a child custody trial.
Plan for holidays and special events
Holidays and special events are important for many children. Even though you might have a specific way that things worked when you were married, it might not be possible to do the same things now that you are getting a divorce. Think about what your child would want. For example, if your family doesn't do anything for Easter, but your ex's family always does a huge Easter celebration, it might be best to let your children enjoy that event. You could always do something with them the Saturday before Easter.
Co-parenting might be an option
If you and your ex can get along amicably, you might consider co-parenting as an option for raising your children. This means that you would still have to spend time with your ex. However, you would simply spend that time as parents and not a couple. The good thing about co-parenting is that it lets your children enjoy having both parents around. If you or your ex gets into another relationship, you could always include your new significant other in the events.
Child support is important
While it is easy to get wrapped up in the money aspect of child support, you should make sure that you are thinking clearly about it. The child support that is exchanged should help to cover the child's living expenses. However, if the child is spending equal time at each home, this might mean that the payments are impacted since both parents will incur costs for the child.